quote Originally posted by Boondawg: No, I hear my own voice tell me what to do, and it is always what I was gonna' do anyway, so that is how I know it is only my own voice. And let me just say, I have never really felt 100% great about my choice. Or it's results. I am quite sure God has never spoke to me. I'm not accusing, just saying. That's his right.

Often our prayers are answered via other people. I know mine are.

Anyway, it sounds like you're leaning towards going back, at least based on this thread. Do the pros outweigh the cons? (I've been attacked by a moose so even visiting Alaska for me holds the same appeal as dropping a centipede down the back of my tucked in shirt. *shudder*)

My advice is do whatever you feel is right and don't let anyone on an internet forum tell you. Doesn't hurt to listen to them and their knowledge of course but only you can decide what is right for you and yours IMO.

If you don't know what you really want, as Brad said flip a coin. If it lands on the side you really wanted you will be satisfied with that one flip, if lands on the side you didn't really want you will have the desire to keep flipping the coin. At least that's what I heard the other day.

I also think I remember you mentioning a young woman in your family that I'm sure would be very happy to see you return.

quote Originally posted by newf: I also think I remember you mentioning a young woman in your family that I'm sure would be very happy to see you return.

Now don't everyone jump all over me for saying this, but she seems to be doing just fine on her own from what Boonie's reported. Why take a chance of mucking it up?

I think Boonie is a great guy, so this is absolutely no knock on him, but sometimes people (in this case, his niece) need some room to find their own way.

quote Originally posted by newf: My advice is do whatever you feel is right and don't let anyone on an internet forum tell you. Doesn't hurt to listen to them and their knowledge of course but only you can decide what is right for you and yours IMO.

But how could that many people be wrong?
I mean, that many brains all thinking the same thing.....it's pretty powerfull.

quote Originally posted by newf: If you don't know what you really want, as Brad said flip a coin. If it lands on the side you really wanted you will be satisfied with that one flip, if lands on the side you didn't really want you will have the desire to keep flipping the coin. At least that's what I heard the other day.

That's why i can't flip a coin.
Becouse I do that exact thing.

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You have PM.

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: But how could that many people be wrong? I mean, that many brains all thinking the same thing.....it's pretty powerfull.

Hey they might not be wrong, only you can decide and only you have all the knowledge to make your decision, you think anyone on here really knows or cares about you better than you?

quote Originally posted by OKflyboy: You have PM.

Answered.

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: I could never show my face around here again, that's for sure!

Why not? It's your decision, your job, your income, your life --your right to run it as you chose.
(well, your's and your wife's I suppose)


I know a dozen or more PFF people who have changed states and jobs more than once since I've been here--done it myself--and have considered as recently as yesterday, chunking in everything, abandon all I've done in the last 5 yrs, throw up a 'for sale' sign and moving back to San Angelo.

This really is a Matrix moment.

"You take the blue pill - the adventure ends, you wake up in Alaska in your old bed and your old life. You take the red pill - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes."



Well, worded like that, it seems pretty easy.

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: That's why i can't flip a coin. Becouse I do that exact thing.

But, you'll find your answer of what you really want to do.

quote Originally posted by theBDub: But, you'll find your answer of what you really want to do.

I think I already know what I WANT to do.
It's what I SHOULD DO that i'm having problems with.

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: I think I already know what I WANT to do. It's what I SHOULD DO that i'm having problems with.

Ahh.

I've had many people told me I shouldn't do certain things, and sometimes I went against them and benefited from it, while others I figured I should have listened. Whether good or bad, I always learned from my decisions, and they help me with future decisions.

Through everything I have ever done, I would never take a single thing back. Everything in my life has led up to now, and I can't imagine being anyone other than me in this body. Recognize your past, and use your own decisions--failures and accomplishments alike--to determine what the best course of action is for this decision.

Regardless, recognize that no matter what, your decision then becomes a part of you, and if you made any OTHER decision you wouldn't be you. Never regret, just learn and adapt.

Good luck to you.

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: Wow, really?! I notice you didn't need to seek advice here. I wish I was that sure of myself.......

Who said anything about being 'sure'--ever?

There are no certainties in life about anything--you make decisions based on need or want, or need and want and make the best of it once the decision is made. I made the decision to move back here in 5 minutes time based solely on a need--someone else's need, with no idea how I was going to accomplish anything--just felt my way (with God's help to find the way and the will), and believe me, there were mornings I sat on the steps of that old house up front in 2006-2007 and cried like a kid, because my own will was just exhausted. I never talked about it much, but it was the hardest thing i ever did--it was worse than my tour in Vietnam.

Boonie, YGPM

quote Originally posted by maryjane: and believe me, there were mornings I sat on the steps of that old house up front in 2006-2007 and cried like a kid, because my own will was just exhausted. I never talked about it much, but it was the hardest thing i ever did--it was worse than my tour in Vietnam.

Wow.
I always think of you as perfect in thought and sure of every move you make.
It never dawned on me you were a failable human!

Kinda' like how a kid looks at his dad.
I was 30 before I realized my dad was just a man.

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: No I don't. Now I do!

Definitely give me a yell if you are up for it, any time I'd actually love to chat with ya. I may not have as many years under my belt as you, my friend, but this:

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: I think I already know what I WANT to do. It's what I SHOULD DO that i'm having problems with.

speaks volumes to me.. I know the feeling and I have been there, many a time. I still am this way to an extent.

quote Originally posted by Xerces_Blackthorne: YGPM

Answered.

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: Answered.

Back atcha

quote Originally posted by Xerces_Blackthorne: Back atcha

And you.

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: And you.

Et tu

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Hey Boonie, I know I am dead to you right now but, if you trust these guys with the job offer to keep you around and not jack you around, it might be net good. Look at it this way, if you'd had the cash you'd be owning a certain guitar right now instead of my nephew. The money aspect can be be pretty important if the lifestyle that goes with it is good.

Good luck on your decision.

Arn

News spreads fast.
I have had 5 calls from different people in Alaska saying they heard I was comming back.
They said the owner of the center is very excited to be getting me in his machines.
And will pay for the move.

Although I have made no commitments as of yet.

The wife has made the desision that she is OK with whatever I do.
She wants me to be happy, and she wants to be out of debt.
Her only requirements are 2 vacations a year out of Alaska.
I negociated her down to 1 vacation and I will give up my albino-midget-amputee-transvestite-goat-pron.

Here is mainly where MY head is at this point; I would get to be my own boss again, comfortably doing what I know at my own pace.

All sides await my desision.

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quote Originally posted by Boondawg: News spreads fast. I have had 5 calls from different people in Alaska saying they heard I was comming back. They said the owner of the center is very excited to be getting me in his machines. And will pay for the move. Although I have made no commitments as of yet.

Interesting tactic by the owner of the bowling center... spreading the news of your impending return.

Nothing like putting pressure on you by having your friends up there get all caught up in the excitement.

Remind us again... Just what have you got in writing up to this point?

Well, ya just as well go ahead and make it--that decision, but ya might want to go ahead too, and throw in that extra vacation for the wife. She "wants you to be happy, but........
If she ain't happy, nobody's happy"

quote Originally posted by Patrick: Remind us again... Just what have you got in writing up to this point?

Nothing.

That comes this week, if I agree to move forward.

quote Originally posted by Patrick: Interesting tactic by the owner of the bowling center... spreading the news of your impending return. Nothing like putting pressure on you by having your friends up there get all caught up in the excitement. Remind us again... Just what have you got in writing up to this point?

This is a very good question.

I've been following this 'quest' since your first post and everyone has good advice in their own right, but the only advice you truly need to follow is your own. I have faith that you will make the best decision for your family, regardless of what it is and that your friends and family will back you up and assist you however you need it to get your job as a family man done. I can't give you advice beyond "follow your wallet heart" because we are different people and as such our ways of doing things lead us in different directions.

quote Originally posted by maryjane: Well, ya just as well go ahead and make it--that decision, but ya might want to go ahead too, and throw in that extra vacation for the wife. She "wants you to be happy, but........ If she ain't happy, nobody's happy"

You got THAT right!

I must say, she never ceases to amaze me.
She has always been a very remarkable person in my life.
Not becouse she seems to give me my lead, but becouse she has a love for me that I can actually feel.
And i never was no believer in that kind of thing.

Hey, maybe THAT is how God speaks to me.
Through her

(Man, I wish I would've NEVER thought of that!)

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: You got THAT right! I must say, she never ceases to amaze me. She has always been a very remarkable person in my life. Not becouse she seems to give me my lead, but becouse she has a love for me that I can actually feel. And i never was no believer in that kind of thing. Hey, maybe THAT is how God speaks to me. Through her (Man, I wish I would've NEVER thought of that!)

"crouch Oh Minion of a husband--in thy loincloth at my feet and eat pork"

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quote Originally posted by maryjane: "crouch Oh Minion of a husband--in thy loincloth at my feet and eat pork"

No place (on earth) I would rather serve.

quote Originally posted by Patrick: Remind us again... Just what have you got in writing up to this point?

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: Nothing. That comes this week, if I agree to move forward.

Okay, now I'm really confused.

Are you saying you'll only get this offer in writing if you firstly agree "to move forward" (although that phrase could be open to interpretation)?

Would it not be prudent to have the offer in writing before making any critical decision?

Call me paranoid, but I'd want all the facts on the table in written form before I'd consider agreeing to anything as important as this.

Well you got to see Pink Floyd its time to go back home and die

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: The wife has made the desision that she is OK with whatever I do.

Hang on to this woman. Don't EVER let her go.

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quote Originally posted by Patrick: Okay, now I'm really confused. Are you saying you'll only get this offer in writing if you firstly agree "to move forward" (although that phrase could be open to interpretation)? Would it not be prudent to have the offer in writing before making any critical decision? Call me paranoid, but I'd want all the facts on the table in written form before I'd consider agreeing to anything as important as this.

We are in the 'consideration' phase.
And timing & logistics. (which is far too complicated to even write about)

An offer has been made.
Now I need to counter offer with any additional requirements or concerns I might have.
Once we agree verbally to everything, then it will be all put down in writing.

I don't know how it is supposed to work, but Alaska bowling isn't exactly corporate with a legal office and such.
We start with a verbal handshake, then finish up with the contract to reconize, finalize, and bind the parties to the contents of the verbal handshake that is reflected in the contract.

I have complete faith in the process.

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quote Originally posted by Boondawg: I have complete faith in the process.

Yep, start packing the dishes... the Boonster is headed north.