what the crap is with girls!! there so bloody confuzing!!!! they expect you to figure out whats wrong with them! you ask whats wrong then they get all angry at you. like what the crap?! they make you do everything! even to get up to get a class of something to drink. why cant they do it them selfs. they got legs. they hurt you like hitting you with books or swinging there purse in your crotch area! and there like oopps. did i do that? sorry... errg!!! im having major issues with my girlfriend latly and she really drove me up the wall yesterday!! we been dating 5 months and like a month of dating she said s\he loves me. afew weeks later. she wa\s like i dont know if i really do love you. so she didnt say it for about a week. then s\he had this lameo dream and said she actually does love me. that lasted about 4months now and she said it all over again!! whats the deal!! it hurts at the same time but also makes\ you really angry. i just had to let out my anger abit guys. sorry. girls are just the most frusterating things ever. and i thought working on the fiero was frusterating.
Get used to it, brother. We will never figure women out, they say one thing and mean another.....and expect you to know what they are talking about or should know what to say to let them know that you understand where they are comming from. I've told my wife I don't play those mind games so when she starts the whole "you should know what I'm thinking" bit, I just walk away saying "whatever......if you want to talk and get things worked out, don't beat around the bush".
As for the saying "I love you" only after 5 months of dating.......waaaayyy too soon in my book for that to be said.
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kyunderdawg Member
Posts: 4373 From: Bowling Green, KY. USA Registered: Aug 2008
I'm not one to give advice here. I cheated on my ex fiance with my current wife and married her after knowing her for six months. Been together for almost ten years, so I guess I did something right. As for you....go have sex with your girlfriend's sister. That always helped (end) my relationships. Dave
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iv had the whatever moments aftew times already. im still a young one and still learning as i go. frick she is the longest gf i had! tho she is the 3rd gf iv had at the same time. i kinda wnt to keep it the last. i hate breakups. any helpfull tips from the much wiser fellows here? im sure you guys all been threw all this stuff before.
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jimbolaya Member
Posts: 10652 From: Virginia Beach, Virginia Registered: Feb 2007
Exactly! and if your lady is giving you all those problems then do what I did with mine and leave her. lol I havent been happier and my hair is finally starting to grow back!
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joshh44 Member
Posts: 2166 From: Nanaimo, B.C, Canada Registered: Aug 2007
i find that some people just give up to easy with relationships. they run into a bit of a situation. and freak out and dont wan\t to deal with whatever it is and just give up and be like see ya later. im not that kind of fellow. i rather work it out. figure out wha\ts wrong. deal with it. and move on. its just abit of a knot and that just need\s to be untied. i dont want to give up and find anothe\r person. i really do enjoy being around her, shes trully is ama\zing. we have set backs and what not but work them out. the humans\ with the long hair with the beautiful smile combined with\ a nice body are the most fruste\rating things on this plant!!!
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joshh44 Member
Posts: 2166 From: Nanaimo, B.C, Canada Registered: Aug 2007
+1 on the upgrading to women. All Girls are a pain and most women are too. But you stand a better chance of finding a women with her head on straight then a girl.
I went through quite a few crazies before I found my wife. She's crazy too, but a sweet and lovable kind of crazy, not a "we the people find the defendant" kind of crazy. We're a perfect fit.
In other words, if she's just effing with you, drop her to the curb and keep looking, you will find the right one eventually, but it may take a lot of time and a lot of pain. Its just the way it goes.
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spud321x Member
Posts: 974 From: Jackson, Michigan Registered: Oct 2004
Originally posted by joshh44: what the crap is with girls!!
Is that a question or a statement? Punctuation says it's a statement, but I'll treat it as a question. Girls judge guys based on their value, it has very little to do with your looks or your pocketbook (there are exceptions to every rule) but mostly it's your social value and your persona.
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there so bloody confuzing!!!! they expect you to figure out whats wrong with them! you ask whats wrong then they get all angry at you. like what the crap?!
That's because you're trying to apply logic to an irrational problem. I learned very early that they don't want a solution, they want an emotional tampon that they can bleed all over and then discard. She's trying to see if you're a man or a tampon.
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they make you do everything! even to get up to get a class of something to drink. why cant they do it them selfs. they got legs. they hurt you like hitting you with books or swinging there purse in your crotch area! and there like oopps. did i do that? sorry...
Again, she's trying to see if you're a man or a tampon. No one can make you do anything you don't want to do. Until you get that through your head, you will have problems with women. Playful "fighting" (a light jab in the shoulder after you tell a dirty joke) is GOOD! "Accidentally" broadsiding you (playfully) with a textbook is GOOD. Physical harm is BAD. Tell her it's unacceptable. If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything. And most importantly:
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errg!!!
I see your "errg!!!" and raise you a:
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im having major issues with my girlfriend latly and she really drove me up the wall yesterday!!
Seriously, if these are the worst problems in your life, you need some perspective.
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we been dating 5 months and like a month of dating she said s\he loves me. afew weeks later. she wa\s like i dont know if i really do love you. so she didnt say it for about a week. then s\he had this lameo dream and said she actually does love me. that lasted about 4months now and she said it all over again!! whats the deal!!
Judge her by her ACTIONS not her WORDS. It's all grey and fuzzy because she thinks with her feelings!
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it hurts at the same time but also makes\ you really angry. i just had to let out my anger abit guys. sorry.
Anger leads to hate, and hate leads to suffering.
It's good that you're venting, bad that you're apologizing. Have control over your emotions, don't let them control you. Emotion causes rash decision making.
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girls are just the most frusterating things ever. and i thought working on the fiero was frusterating.
Not really. You just need to realize that they're illogical, irrational, and put no value on words. Once you realize that...you're golden!
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joshh44 Member
Posts: 2166 From: Nanaimo, B.C, Canada Registered: Aug 2007
\woman, girls, s\ame thing to me haha. guess you can say young woman? i dont know. i find there there difficult to understand im not going to find another person because of this situation. im just trying to figure out what to do next.
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OKflyboy Member
Posts: 6607 From: Not too far from Mexico Registered: Nov 2004
\woman, girls, s\ame thing to me haha. guess you can say young woman? i dont know. i find there there difficult to understand im not going to find another person because of this situation. im just trying to figure out what to do next.
If she's telling you its over, there may not be much to do. Every person's experience is different, but in my experience, when she's telling you she love's you, then telling you she doesn't love you, its more then just indecisiveness. When my ex said she didn't love me, it was because she'd found someone else to be enamored with, when she suddenly loved me again, it was because that someone else got bored with her and she needed someone to run to.
As far as girls=young women, fine, semantics. My statement a few posts above stands, your more likely to find a women with her head on straight then a young women.
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Originally posted by joshh44: then s\he had this lameo dream and said she actually does love me. that lasted about 4months now and she said it all over again!!
Whoops, read that wrong. looked to me the first time I read it like you said she was saying "it was over, again" my bad.
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jimbolaya Member
Posts: 10652 From: Virginia Beach, Virginia Registered: Feb 2007
i think what she ment to say was she doesnt really know what real love is. she still wants to date and what not. shes really cunfuzing me alot. i need to talk to her about some issues whe she has time. i havnt yelled at her yet and i dont really want to. im still learning as i go so im trying to figure out what to do as i go along. lea\rn from are mistakes.
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Synthesis Member
Posts: 12207 From: Jordan, MN Registered: Feb 2002
Originally posted by jimbolaya: Dude, lighten up, I think he was just having a bad day with his girl and wanted to vent.
Jim
He's young, there are more fish in the sea, but he needs to learn how to bait his hook if ya know what I mean. It took me too long to learn this lesson. I try to help where I can. I spent 2 years of a 4 year relationship trying to ignore the bad and focus on the good. It finally came time to sh*t or get off the pot. I realized that I was way too young to sh*t, so I got off the pot. And I couldn't be happier. A friend of mine often says: "Youth is wasted on the young." and I agree more and more every day.
my ex drives me up a wall and right back down it i never really got her. 5 min into a conversation it was like yea ok cool awsome sweet thats good nice you have to keep a rythym goin to it one word a min and dont say the same thing twice theyll catch on to the fact your thinkiong f**** tou lipstick F*** your shirt F*** your pants F*** your cloths F*** your ex. best thing to do is is you dont get them stoop to there level.
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joshh44 Member
Posts: 2166 From: Nanaimo, B.C, Canada Registered: Aug 2007
well i finnaly got ahold of her and she said she thinks we are moving alittle to fast. i didnt mind the pace we were moving at. even tho she set the pace. she started talking about marrages and having kids after like 2 months. i didnt mind it. i didnt mind talking about it marrage and stuff. tho i wa\snt planning on asking her to marry me any time soon anyways.
she wants to take it slow. she says we see each other to much and wants\ to see less of each other. but still wants to date. is she hinting at sometyhing? or am i just to dumb to notice?
well i finnaly got ahold of her and she said she thinks we are moving alittle to fast. i didnt mind the pace we were moving at. even tho she set the pace. she started talking about marrages and having kids after like 2 months. i didnt mind it. i didnt mind talking about it marrage and stuff. tho i wa\snt planning on asking her to marry me any time soon anyways.
she wants to take it slow. she says we see each other to much and wants\ to see less of each other. but still wants to date. is she hinting at sometyhing? or am i just to dumb to notice?
dont hire a private investigator to follow her but keep an eve on her usualy a slow down means somthing.
and on another note if any girl started talkin to me about marrige or kids after 2 months id be hittin the brakes like a rich kid in a corvette commin up on a big rig. im 21 and at this point in my life i dont want kids when i get older.
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OKflyboy Member
Posts: 6607 From: Not too far from Mexico Registered: Nov 2004
well i finnaly got ahold of her and she said she thinks we are moving alittle to fast. i didnt mind the pace we were moving at. even tho she set the pace. she started talking about marrages and having kids after like 2 months. i didnt mind it. i didnt mind talking about it marrage and stuff. tho i wa\snt planning on asking her to marry me any time soon anyways.
she wants to take it slow. she says we see each other to much and wants\ to see less of each other. but still wants to date. is she hinting at sometyhing? or am i just to dumb to notice?
The world is a target rich environment. Allow for windage and elevation and move on.
enjoy yourself ,make the best of it ,do not push her let her do as she pleases,this will give you plenty of time to scout out new territorry ,, allow other crazy whacko ladies to check you ,, you may find the treasure chest you seek Ive slowed down a lot but there are still women 20 years younger who like me and I,m wierd.& an infequent bather. I set aside special time just humiliate my self . If you are troubled,feel bad in a relationship time to eyeball for more friendly suroundings,unless she is gymnastic contortionist who makes you beg for mercy// or is demanding in bedroom // or screaming moaner.. some leeway is given to the ""special"" ladies!! I was switched at birth with Hugh Heffner .I had to adapt,, I just moved on !!
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HAHA i agree with the spending more! best way to save money is not to have a gf. but i really enjoy having a gf so i find it worth the money and effort. i dont want to look for new ladys! im sure there are more out there for me. but i dont want to look for any one. maybe im afaid of changes. im pretty comfortable in my bubble.
by the way. if you think i hate woman. i dont! there the most amazing things ever!! if i were allowed and it wasnt a sin. id have more than 1 gf! but im not a bad A$$ person. i dont drink or do drugs. i rarly put people down. i try my best not to. tho there a\r\e people that rub me the wrong way but i try to not say anything mean. people tell me im a goodie goodie. whatever that mea\ns. im not a huge risk taker. im a pretty calm, slow to anger young fellow. im not a punk. im not an emo.
just to let you know who i am cu\z i think some of you may \think im kinda a young punk who this all mocho.
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ryan.hess Member
Posts: 20784 From: Orlando, FL Registered: Dec 2002
Originally posted by joshh44: she wants to take it slow. she says we see each other to much and wants\ to see less of each other. but still wants to date. is she hinting at sometyhing? or am i just to dumb to notice?
Translation into guy-speek:
She wants to bang other people.
(Don't shoot the messenger. I have mace.)
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OKflyboy Member
Posts: 6607 From: Not too far from Mexico Registered: Nov 2004
We will never figure women out, they say one thing and mean another.....and expect you to know what they are talking about or should know what to say to let them know that you understand where they are comming from. 
I've told my wife I don't play those mind games so when she starts the whole "you should know what I'm thinking" bit, I just walk away saying "whatever......if you want to talk and get things worked out, don't beat around the bush".
