Lots of folks feel they are victims of their own lives.
Feel like they aren't even "living" their life.


Three step process to a new "genuine" life:

1.Realize that you are responsible for everything that
happens in your live and you cannot blame anyone else.

2. Removing anyone from your life who cannot put the past to bed. Sever the ties which do not serve you.

3. Enjoy your new life, minimizing any remnants of your past whenever they pop up.

Note: This is a freaking difficult process. Sometimes, it's not really actually possible. Some of our lives are pretty entangled, like those dang earbuds. Your results may vary. But any 'pruning of the self and negative 'crap' (and people and influences) will still be beneficial...

I've observed (and have read) that as you change, those around you are not going to magically be accepting of these changes, even if they are "positive" ((from your POV)

Especially if you have surrounded yourself with 'toxic' folks.

It's hard not to fall back into old routines


Or maybe you might like to try one of these 'semi-awful-sounding' therapies
(yipes)

http://answers.google.com/a.../threadview?id=43598

http://www.usefulweb.demon.co.uk/forum/


The Journey of the wounded Healer:
http://alexgrey.com/wp-cont...y_of_the_Wounded.jpg
In the first panel we see the self trapped in a dizzying vortex of evolutionary descent, paralleling the hallucinatory descent of the initiate shaman into the underworld or realm of the dead. The prisoner yearns for freedom and becomes sick with the materialist limitations of his genetic chains represented by entrapment in a spiraling DNA molecule.


In the central panel the self explodes into space, dismembering into a mysterium tremendum, a powerful confrontation with forces on all levels of reality; subatomic, cellular, planetary, galactic, psychical, spiritual. The energy which animates the All, the force of God, erupts through the embodied self and destroys identification with the sickly contracted ego, opening the self to merge with new powers. An alchemical serpent power with three heads (representing body, mind, and spirit) weaves an integrating and transmuting energy which binds together the new self.


In the final panel the reintegrated man ascends into the middle and upper worlds, released from the psychic bonds of materialist entrapment and tapped into the light which beams from the mind and heart. As a healer, he wields a crystalline hermetic caduceus with the balanced serpent powers of the unconscious and winged vision of the superconscious. The healer/scientist/artist ascends the crystal mountain of the higher self, a self empowered by the responsibility for healing the future.

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aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand LUNCH!

quote Originally posted by TheDigitalAlchemist: 1.Realize that you are responsible for everything thathappens in your live and you cannot blame anyone else. 2. Removing anyone from your life who cannot put the past to bed. Sever the ties which do not serve you. 3. Enjoy your new life, minimizing any remnants of your past whenever they pop up.

You post some very cool stuff.

I would add some clarifying jibber jabbery things from my own opinion..

1. You are valuable, dont give up, life happens while you make plans. There is no normal. Perservere.

2. Be aware that serves you may be a much deeper term than you think. To me it doesnt mean makes you happy. It could be someone who gives good advice youd rather not hear at the time. "Pruning negaitve crap" that does seem like a good way to put it. Perhaps serves you well?

3. Remember to learn from your past. The cool thing is, you can also learn from other peoples pasts.

3.5 Wear sunscreen

I was listening to the second half of Incantations (a Mike Oldfield "oldie but goodie" piece) and noticed something in the comments regarding a therapy which supposedly mushed up his brain region for a spell... and came across some of that stuff...

the color yellow makes me sad..

quote Originally posted by maryjane: the color yellow makes me sad..

heh
What are you doing about that?

quote Originally posted by TheDigitalAlchemist: 1.Realize that you are responsible for everything that happens in your live and you cannot blame anyone else.

That is not true. Crap occurs.
However, only you can decide how to respond to what happens in your life. If you fall down, you can either lay on the ground and complain about being knocked down, or you can stand back up again.

Realize you own your problems in life. That puts the burden on you to fix them - but it also means the power to fix them is within you.

Change your situation. Don't let your situation change you.

Every great success story in life has a string of failures behind it.

I always liked this scene from the West Wing. Mrs. Bartlett comes in angry that her Chief of Staff lost the negotiations for something and was met with smug arrogance, but you can see the light go on when she realizes anger won't fix it and that her failure was a lesson on what not to do.

Sure, real life isn't neat and tidy like that where you get the resolution before the commercial break, but the idea is the same. Learn from your mistakes so you don't make them again and you can go on to make other new mistakes on the road to becoming.

quote "Good judgment comes from experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment."

quote Originally posted by TheDigitalAlchemist: 1.Realize that you are responsible for everything that happens in your live and you cannot blame anyone else.

THIS line of horsie kaka I have always had a serious issue with....the shooting victim is responsible for being in the path of the bullet ? The drunk driving victim responsable for being in the way of the drunk ? The fraud victim responsible for the lies of the criminal ?

NOPE, it dont work that way and sometimes it IS Obama's fault !!!!!

quote Originally posted by MidEngineManiac: THIS line of horsie kaka I have always had a serious issue with....the shooting victim is responsible for being in the path of the bullet ? The drunk driving victim responsable for being in the way of the drunk ? The fraud victim responsible for the lies of the criminal ? NOPE, it dont work that way and sometimes it IS Obama's fault !!!!!

As previously posted:

quote Crap happens. However, only you can decide how to respond to what happens in your life. If you fall down, you can either lay on the ground and complain about being knocked down, or you can stand back up again.

Heh sorry, I knew that was BS... I should have said you are responsible for your actions...

Foreskin?

quote Originally posted by Stubby79: Foreskin?

Yeah, I used to collect them from the hospital and harvest fibroblasts and keratinocytes from them.

But that was many, many moons ago...

quote Originally posted by TheDigitalAlchemist: Lots of folks feel they are victims of their own lives. Feel like they aren't even "living" their life. Three step process to a new "genuine" life: 1.Realize that you are responsible for everything that happens in your live and you cannot blame anyone else. Love to agree with this, but I can't. A) I have lung problems, I never smoked, never worked in fields that would've cause lung problems, but yet I have them. B)Health issues (random passing out), I'd love to know what I did to cause this,, so would the doctors, I never did drugs, never liked drinking, no "known" reasons like playing football and getting hit on the head, or autowrecks/etc.. C) Tinnitus sure I guess this could be my fault, I did choose to work the boston marathon , tho I didn't choose to have a bomb go off 25 yards from me.. 2. Removing anyone from your life who cannot put the past to bed. Sever the ties which do not serve you. easier said than done, There was a flagstone hanging on the wall of my grandmothers " people will always remember your mistakes, and forget what you get right" The longer you work at the same place the more this becomes true, Also those you deal with at work or that are fiends might put the past to bed, but not all that they are around,may.. I'd like nothing more than my parents getting past their devoice ,and the things that lead up to it, 1985 was a long time ago.. but I don't see either one putting the past to bed.. and removing them from my life isn't an optionl lol 3. Enjoy your new life, minimizing any remnants of your past whenever they pop up. Those that don't remember history are doomed to repeat it, This also goes with The individual, Remnants of your past are not the issue, thinking of them as baggage is Note: This is a freaking difficult process. Sometimes, it's not really actually possible. Some of our lives are pretty entangled, like those dang earbuds. Your results may vary. But any 'pruning of the self and negative 'crap' (and people and influences) will still be beneficial... I've observed (and have read) that as you change, those around you are not going to magically be accepting of these changes, even if they are "positive" ((from your POV) Especially if you have surrounded yourself with 'toxic' folks. It's hard not to fall back into old routines

Change is hard, and change isn't always the answer, many see the grass greener on the otherside than it really is..
Propting this quote, "don't know what you got until it's gone.."
Much of all this can be from outside forces.. and why I love this song so much.. it sends a message many will never understand.. as all they see/hear is the "issue" in the sogns makeup not the message that is in it and it's title, and the ablems title. "long hard look"

quote Originally posted by E.Furgal: Propting this quote, "don't know what you got until it's gone.."

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