Just venting... Been seeing this female for a few months and she became all cagey over the weekend, then revealed to me that she doesn't enjoy physical gestures of affection (this is new) and, actually, doesn't find men to be physically attractive at all (me included). I can't tell if it's really how she feels or if she's getting bad relationship advice from her flamboyant roommates.
Jon this is shockingly common in NYC, I'd imagine in most major cities though. So many chicks are bisexual along with whatever the hell else, same with guys being bi and metrosexual. I don't have an issue with it apart from the fact that its become incredibly hard to find a female under 30 thats like guys and isn't into strange fetishes or experimenting in one way or another.
Believe it or not, a lot of younger people these days who've grown up with public/rapid transit don't bother with a getting a license and a car... which leaves more room on the streets for old dinosaurs like us.
Jon this is shockingly common in NYC, I'd imagine in most major cities though. So many chicks are bisexual along with whatever the hell else, same with guys being bi and metrosexual. I don't have an issue with it apart from the fact that its become incredibly hard to find a female under 30 thats like guys and isn't into strange fetishes or experimenting in one way or another.
Better luck next time!
You say "strange fetishes" like it's a bad thing...
But seriously, unless you're sure she's the one, I'm not sure I'd continue to chase her.
Originally posted by skuzzbomer:Just venting... Been seeing this female for a few months and she became all cagey over the weekend, then revealed to me that she doesn't enjoy physical gestures of affection (this is new) and, actually, doesn't find men to be physically attractive at all (me included). I can't tell if it's really how she feels or if she's getting bad relationship advice from her flamboyant roommates.
Need to have a talk, I think.
I think this was just a real stupid way to say, "I do not think you are the one to spent the rest of my life with". Just be glad it ended now instead of 6 years and 3 babies later. Next!!!
I think you're approaching it all wrong. A woman's bisexuality is to be embraced and used to its full potential IMO. My wife is bi and its played in my favor many times
I have quite a few hot bi-girlfriends. I dont have any problem with them at all. Sorry, but me and 75% of other men find two girls pretty stimulating. One once told me she likes doing it with girls better because theyre softer, prettier and smell better...soooo who am I to argue. Not all girls like hairy chests and legs. I had one from Hooters that used to come over all the time after a short shift to watch lez **** while I was working in the garage. Sometimes cut my work time short.....
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I suppose I should clarify as I see that my post doesn't convey what I meant. Let me give you an example..
I used to work as an independent contractor at the Jacob Javits center (Huge convention center where the NY Auto Show is hosted among other events). I had to work with this chick who seemed cute enough, her hair was shorter than her shoulders but otherwise looked completely feminine. A couple days later she's in shorts and I'm giving her a hand while she's on a ladder. I spy with my little eye a pair of unshaved legs and pits as she's reaching up. Ahhhhhhh . I talked to her some and she's like yeah I'm just bi. Yaaaa no.
I'm trying to think of other specific example but I'm blank, there are so many more. Point is that there are a lot of "strangelings" out there, especially in Manhattan. Anything goes..
Justin- Strange fetishes can definitely be a weird thing. Ain't NO ONE taking a piss on me, sh!tting on me, sucking my feet, tossing salad, or using any weird contraptions apart from some good old handcuffs. lol
Originally posted by nitroheadz28:Strange fetishes can definitely be a weird thing. Ain't NO ONE*****, or using any weird contraptions apart from some good old handcuffs.l
Yep, you are weird but, you set the rules, be right there you freak. I had no idea you swinged. LOL!
Let's just say, that telling your significant other something to the effect of the thought that you are repulsed by the idea of physical intimacy with them, after the fact, is a pretty awful thing to do. I'll tell more of the story later.
Right now, I'm heading to pick her up for a serious talk.
Just needed somewhere to vent. Maybe I'll write a song about it and sell it to Taylor Swift.
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You'd be surprised. I work in a place where I get to profile people based on the things they search for and buy. Based on my own observations, women are freaks, way more than men. In general, I rarely ever see men associating with adult items or content. Women on the other hand, one in three on average are into some weird things.
I became friends with and dated a lesbian girl for awhile. She would invite me to her apartment and we would talk a lot, I really liked her and I'm sure she liked me but it never went beyond light kissing. I guess I hoped I could change her but she was hard core. She was good looking, you'd never know she was a lesbian until you got to know her.
I suppose I should clarify as I see that my post doesn't convey what I meant. Let me give you an example..
I used to work as an independent contractor at the Jacob Javits center (Huge convention center where the NY Auto Show is hosted among other events). I had to work with this chick who seemed cute enough, her hair was shorter than her shoulders but otherwise looked completely feminine. A couple days later she's in shorts and I'm giving her a hand while she's on a ladder. I spy with my little eye a pair of unshaved legs and pits as she's reaching up. Ahhhhhhh . I talked to her some and she's like yeah I'm just bi. Yaaaa no.
I'm trying to think of other specific example but I'm blank, there are so many more. Point is that there are a lot of "strangelings" out there, especially in Manhattan. Anything goes..
Justin- Strange fetishes can definitely be a weird thing. Ain't NO ONE taking a piss on me, sh!tting on me, sucking my feet, tossing salad, or using any weird contraptions apart from some good old handcuffs. lol
.....but Boonie has access to Bowling Pins !!!!!!!! ......
but yeh, that seems to be about the only choices these days....lesbian, feminist, or bible thumper (or some strange combination thereof)....no thanks, I keep it to "casual" around them types. NOT interested in anything beyond 2 hours--and if they aint shaving I aint playing !!!
One of my first girlfriends had a girlfriend when we started dating. I didn't ask her to dump her girlfriend but she bid as soon as we started dating. I should have known better and never got involved. If she is confused and testing both ponds it's not worth sticking around whether she is confused about her sexuality or just you. I dodged a bullet with one girl, she had a ex get drunk and beat to death when they where trying to work things out. She dated me as few months later but she just couldn't make up her mind. We ended up breaking up when she decided I was to serious, she got pregnant by the guy the left me for another more fun guy, got pregnant, got dumped right away because she was pregnant and then claimed I was the best relationship she ever had. The worst part is I hadn't learned, thank God I wasn't the only option. Stupid me thought she was still what I wanted. I was broke and she had a high school stalker friend who was in the military and had more to offer, it lasted a week before she picked the better gold mine.
Years later when she found out I bought a house she tried to reconnect, told me She made a mistake and her husband neglected her. There was no chance me falling for it again so I sent her a link to the banana phone video and that was the last I ever heard from her.
I suppose I should clarify as I see that my post doesn't convey what I meant. Let me give you an example..
I used to work as an independent contractor at the Jacob Javits center (Huge convention center where the NY Auto Show is hosted among other events). I had to work with this chick who seemed cute enough, her hair was shorter than her shoulders but otherwise looked completely feminine. A couple days later she's in shorts and I'm giving her a hand while she's on a ladder. I spy with my little eye a pair of unshaved legs and pits as she's reaching up. Ahhhhhhh . I talked to her some and she's like yeah I'm just bi. Yaaaa no.
I'm trying to think of other specific example but I'm blank, there are so many more. Point is that there are a lot of "strangelings" out there, especially in Manhattan. Anything goes..
Justin- Strange fetishes can definitely be a weird thing. Ain't NO ONE taking a piss on me, sh!tting on me, sucking my feet, tossing salad, or using any weird contraptions apart from some good old handcuffs. lol
Hairy legs don't bother me. I prefer smooth shaven legs, but I can deal with hairy legs. As fieroguy123 said, dating someone bi can lead to some really interesting evenings, especially if they're not the jealous type.
As far as freaky stuff, piss, poo and salad tossing are out, but if she wants to suck my toes, I won't say no, and... yeeaaahhhh other things can be REALLY fun...
I don't want to hi-jack Skuzz's thread any more than I already have so I'll leave it at that.
I don't want to hi-jack Skuzz's thread any more than I already have so I'll leave it at that.
Feel free, J.... we want to hear more.
Had a long talk... About two hours. She had coffee, I got a bite to eat. Things went better than I had anticipated they would could. She still has a few demons in her past to work out, apparently. Now I know where we both stand, though, and I did as I had intended - put the ball firmly in her court so that if she was leading me on, it'd all fall on her head. All I ask for is honesty. It was a discussion that needed to happen either way. As it turns out, we're on the same page and she had a few things to clear up.
I just planned to use this thread to vent and didn't expect the response it received. I say this thread needs to keep going a while longer. A difficult and strange topic with a lot of interesting replies.
Had a long talk... About two hours. She had coffee, I got a bite to eat. Things went better than I had anticipated they would could. She still has a few demons in her past to work out, apparently. Now I know where we both stand, though, and I did as I had intended - put the ball firmly in her court so that if she was leading me on, it'd all fall on her head. All I ask for is honesty. It was a discussion that needed to happen either way. As it turns out, we're on the same page and she had a few things to clear up.
I just planned to use this thread to vent and didn't expect the response it received. I say this thread needs to keep going a while longer. A difficult and strange topic with a lot of interesting replies.
This is a family forum..
It's good you got things started in a definitive direction and hopefully got things going in hopefully the right direction.
J, you should know 99% of all venting threads wind up someplace they weren't supposed to. LOL
As it turns out, we're on the same page and she had a few things to clear up.
Bueno
Just another example of another story. A friend of a friend was solicited by a certain affluent senior citizen female to take a dump on her chest and smear it all over for a grand. For 1000 dollhairs I'd consider it, lol. People are into some strange things.
Girls with hair anywhere except on their head or crotch (prefer bare) is a big turn off to me. I dont even get interested in girls that have bulging muscles. Tight and toned is great, just not body builder types. I dated a cute one that always wore jeans and tops. First time she got naked it was ewwwwww. She was an amature body builder and her body didnt turn me on at all. I didnt see her again. With her, it just seemed like she was a guy with boobs.
Originally posted by skuzzbomer: ... All I ask for is honesty. It was a discussion that needed to happen either way. As it turns out, we're on the same page and she had a few things to clear up.
Good for ya'. And good luck. There's not enough honesty in the world these days. Everybody seems to be into some game or another.
I don't really have anything to add to this thread, other than I hope things work out like you want them to. Or at lest like they should.
I cant even type the names of some of the weird crap some girls I know are into. I met one online who invited me to take her to a fetish party in Cinncy a few years ago. Interesting....is all to say.
Originally posted by Patrick: Believe it or not, a lot of younger people these days who've grown up with public/rapid transit don't bother with a getting a license and a car...
I have noticed that. Dumb fracks. Shunning something which enables so much freedom, provides so much choice, and is an opportunity bonanza. I don't understand it. I see it like as a bug who does not wish to get out of a glass jar it is in. As much as they say "this is me" by tattooing themselves, or by other means, they don't use a car as an expression of who they are. I can understand that as clothes don't make the man. However, all my life I have wanted a vehicle of which I could be proud of and pour money into, making it personal to me.
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