|Originally posted by Hudini:|
It just amazes me how 1.4 billion people act with complete disregard for each other. To an outsider it appears each one acts
I always find it interesting what bothers certain people, or more in this case, what doesn't
bother certain people.
"Oh, my spitting up large gobs of phlegm bothers you? I would have never thought of that. " Well, apparently it didn't bother 1.4 billiion people, so I just didn't think it would bother you either.
"Oh, my peeing or pooping on a public sidewalk bothers you? I would have never thought of that." Because 1.4 billion other people didn't care, so I just assumed you wouldn't.
On the other hand, littering, cutting into lines, flouting traffic laws. Yeah, that is pretty universal across cultures that you are just putting yourself first at the expense of other people.
Here is a "normal" for me. I was in a restaurant with my wife and one of my daughters about a month ago and the tables were pretty close. I was talking about some, to others, gross medical stuff that had happened that day. My wife is a nurse, so she doesn't even consider it gross. I don't either. It is just a fact of my daily life. My daughter is used to it now, and so it isn't gross to her. After about a minute, I noticed in my peripheral vision that one of the people at the next table was looking over. Oops. I wasn't even thinking about it. What was culturally not even an issue for me was making me be rude or boorish to someone else who had a different life experience of "normal". So I immediately changed the subject.
Just an example that people's "normal" isn't the same definition, by culture, life experience, etc.
Hence the "when in Rome" mentality. Be respectful of people and know a little bit about where you are, and what their
acceptable norms are and don't uncaringly express your normals when visiting them.