In Carlise, PA for the night. Onto Bath, NY in the morning. Exhausted. But much to do tomorrow. From the sounds of it, my daddy won't be here much longer.
------------------ Whade' "The Duck Formerly Known As Wade" Duck '88 Ferrario '84 Indy (In A Museum)
So sad, hope you are doing OK and can remain strong for yourself and Dad. Take care and know that you have people you may have never met thinking of you. All my best.
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Posts: 35951 From: Bandera, Texas, USA Registered: Jun 2003
Sorry to hear Whade. Prayers and vibes given. For your dad and you and your family. We are not used to last moments and they are hard, but, they are last moments. Try to make the most of them. Accept the pain and appreciate it as a measure of love. Do not let it rob you from making the best of your time left. And don't give up. There may be more time than you think.
In Bath, NY now. No access at the hospital. Spent the night next to my daddy just in case probably will tonight too. It won't be much longer. His breathing is very labored and aepnic (sp). my little brother was able to get the Red Cross to get him emergency leave to come here. He and his family will be here late tonight.
------------------ Whade' "The Duck Formerly Known As Wade" Duck '88 Ferrario '84 Indy (In A Museum)
Hang in there Whade, dad will know if you are losing it and so will your little brother. Again more good vibes to him that he goes with as little pain as possible. And more to all your family. Losing a dad it hard for us guys.
Sorry to hear he is going so quickly, or maybe that is good, don’t know but good vibes to you all.
Steve
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Again, thanks to everyone for the good vibes and prayers. My daddy's still holding on. but he's unresponsive and can't eat anything anymore. So now it's just a matter of keeping him comfortable. Part of me hope that he goes tonight so he doesn't suffer, although I don't believe he's in any pain. But there's still the illogical part of me that thinks that he could pull out of all of this. I know it's not possible though. my little brother got here in time for my daddy to still recognize him and I was able to let my older brother talk to him over speaker phone from Australia before he got really bad. I'm going to miss him so much.
------------------ Whade' "The Duck Formerly Known As Wade" Duck '88 Ferrario '84 Indy (In A Museum)
"'Ere sin could blight or sorrow fade, Death came with friendly care, the opening bud to heaven conveyed, and bade its blossom there." - Samuel Taylor Coleridge
Death is a release from the responsibilities of this life.
I am so sad for you, but I know things are going to be okay, and it is okay to grieve.
I lost my mom three years ago, and I still think about her every day. But the thoughts are slowly changing overtime from sad thoughts to nostalgia and remembering good times. It is a cliche, but a good one.
Whade, I feel your pain man i really do. When bringing my dad to the hospital yeaterday i found myself taking the longest ways to get there just to spend more time with him before he went in for his surgery. when we got there i was trying to hold myself back from tears as we walked into the waiting room to get him regestered. We all sat down and he said he knows he is going to be ok but if the worst should happen he said he was poud to have me and my little brother as sons and if he did go he could knowing he raised 2 great boys. When he was in the check in room before the operating room i watched him being wheeled away thinking this could very well be the last time i see my daddy again and part of me just wanted to scream dont do it. I'm willing to bet anything that the words my dad said to me would be the same words your dad would say to you and your's if he was able. Its trueley a sad thing to lose such a beloved family member who saw you and raised you from a pup. My hopes and prayers are with you and your own. I thank god for giving my father the strengh to get through the operation and hopefuly he will grant your father the strengh to pull through his ordeal.
You never know. My grandfather looked like he was on his death bed god knows how amny times and the next day we come in and hes yelling at the nurses for getting his lunch order wrong. Stay strong my friend.
At 5:15 this morning, my daddy passed. I'm just glad that we were able to be with him when the time came. We have to make arrangements at the funeral home today. I'll be spending another few days here to get things somewhat organized. Then I'll be carrying his ashes back with me to myrtle Beach. Once myself and my two brothers can get together, we'll decide what to do with his ashes. My daddy said he didn't have any preferrences. Again, thank you to everyone for the good vibes and prayers. He went peacefully and without pain.
------------------ Whade' "The Duck Formerly Known As Wade" Duck '88 Ferrario '84 Indy (In A Museum)
At 5:15 this morning, my daddy passed. I'm just glad that we were able to be with him when the time came. We have to make arrangements at the funeral home today. I'll be spending another few days here to get things somewhat organized. Then I'll be carrying his ashes back with me to myrtle Beach. Once myself and my two brothers can get together, we'll decide what to do with his ashes. My daddy said he didn't have any preferrences. Again, thank you to everyone for the good vibes and prayers. He went peacefully and without pain.
*Hug* I am so very sorry for your loss. I am glad you were with him when it happened. My uncle is now going through the exact same thing, isn’t a candidate and doesn’t have a lot of time either. I feel for you and yours right now, be strong and know that he loves you and he was not alone. Take care *hug*
I understand how you feel right now. I lost my father about 18 months ago and it was a very difficult time for all of us. Life does go on but there will always be memories that surface when you least expect it. If you want to talk about it, give me a call.
Nelson
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At 5:15 this morning, my daddy passed. I'm just glad that we were able to be with him when the time came. We have to make arrangements at the funeral home today. I'll be spending another few days here to get things somewhat organized. Then I'll be carrying his ashes back with me to myrtle Beach. Once myself and my two brothers can get together, we'll decide what to do with his ashes. My daddy said he didn't have any preferrences. Again, thank you to everyone for the good vibes and prayers. He went peacefully and without pain.
At 5:15 this morning, my daddy passed. I'm just glad that we were able to be with him when the time came. We have to make arrangements at the funeral home today. I'll be spending another few days here to get things somewhat organized. Then I'll be carrying his ashes back with me to myrtle Beach. Once myself and my two brothers can get together, we'll decide what to do with his ashes. My daddy said he didn't have any preferrences. Again, thank you to everyone for the good vibes and prayers. He went peacefully and without pain.
Hang in there. Honor his memory and be the man he'd want you to be.
I am very sorry to hear of his passing. I know this is and will be a tough time for you. I lost my mom at the first of the year. I know for me, having you guys on here to talk with helped me immensely. I only hope that we can help you the same.
Sorry to hear of his passing. Hang in there. It might get a little rough but that's where friends and family (and this site) come into play.
It will be two years on Thanksgiving day that I lost my dad - and then five months later I lost my mom. Needless to say, I leaned on family and friends to get through it. My prayers are with you and your brothers.
Will be getting back home tomorrow. It's been a long two weeks. Wished it would've ended up better. It hasn't quite hit me yet that he's gone. But I'm sure it will. Thanks everyone for all of the prayers and well wishes.
------------------ Whade' "The Duck Formerly Known As Wade" Duck '88 Ferrario '84 Indy (In A Museum)
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Posts: 36442 From: Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada Registered: Apr 99
I'm ashamed to admit that I was purposely avoiding this thread. I was avoiding this thread because I always feel so bad after reading about people's friends, family, and yes, their pets dying.
Whade, I'm so sorry to read of your dad's passing. As I worked my way through this thread and realized the way it was going, tears began to fill my eyes. I've been through the death of a parent myself (my mom) and I know how much it hurts.
Today would've been my daddy's 67th birthday. There were parts of today that were difficult to get through. I still miss him terribly.
My mom passed away more than three years ago and I still think about her every day. All I can offer is that sometimes when I think about her it is happy memories that sneak in, not just dominated by sadness. I hope as time goes by more happiness replaces the sadness, if that makes sense.
Press onward, Whade, and make him proud to wait for you on the other side.
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Posts: 29566 From: Some unacceptable view Registered: Feb 2007
Today would've been my daddy's 67th birthday. There were parts of today that were difficult to get through. I still miss him terribly.
I'm sorry Wade....I admit I avoided this thread/ topic beyond good thoughts for selfish reasons...I DONT GIVE hugs to dudes...........but for just this one time---all the best wishes man....
After much delay through my daddy's estate, my daddy's ashes arrived at my house today. I'm glad he's with me now and safe. But then, I also realize that it's all I'll have left of the man who raised me. Kind of bittersweet.
------------------ Whade' "The Duck Formerly Known As Wade" Duck '88 Ferrario
If I may say so, Whade...no, you are wrong. The only part of your father you no longer have is the flesh. His memory will live on in and with you. His blood is coursing through your veins right now. His genes are yours too, and all this he gave you with the true love of a good father. Be strong, smile sometimes when you remember him (every day, no doubt, just as I remember my departed Mother). they are always by your side, even when they have passed away, offering advice and guidance, if you will listen to the tiny voice that is HIS, inside you. God Bless, and my deep and sad condolences Nick
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Thanks Nick. Had a moment alone with my daddy just now. It still hurts so much. It'll just take me time to process it. For the time being, he'll be up on my mantel where he can keep watch over me. Then when myself and my two brothers can get together, We'll make a decision whether to scatter his ashes somewhere or burry him in a national cemetary. He was a veteran.
------------------ Whade' "The Duck Formerly Known As Wade" Duck '88 Ferrario
