Is there any way to tell if the intended party was the one who received an email,or any way to tell if the email address was used by the intended receipiant. This is a family matter and very important to me.Thanks for any help!

Is this for your estranged daughter? Hope you get through, Hugh.I think it is possible to get a confirmation of delivery, or it being opened..but donīt know how to do it, and I donīt think you can find out the name of the recipient of that mailbox...so here is a bump for you anyway
Good luck, my friend
Nick

Yes Nick,This is probably my last attempt at reconciliation.I don't want my wife to cry any more.I'm tired of crying too.

quote Originally posted by hugh: Is there any way to tell if the intended party was the one who received an email,or any way to tell if the email address was used by the intended receipiant. This is a family matter and very important to me.

Unfortunately, no...

You can put a read receipt on the mail but if she is using a web client or has them disabled you wont get the receipt.

This is the option from Outlook express.

quote Originally posted by Jake_Dragon: You can put a read receipt on the mail but if she is using a web client or has them disabled you wont get the receipt.

No email client sends out an acknowledgment of receipt automatically. The receiver is asked if the email client can send the receipt.

quote Originally posted by Cliff Pennock: No email client sends out an acknowledgment of receipt automatically. The receiver is asked if the email client can send the receipt.

Right, no home client does, and really most don't due to security issues. Only in a corporate world where things are locked down could you be certain.

You can include an image in your email that is hosted on a website that you may have. Check the access logs periodically after you've sent it, and that should let you know as soon as the email has been opened. Of course, this won't work if their email client isn't setup to automatically display email-images.

over all - no - you can not.
receipts are a fine start - but - not all email clients support them - and - not all users know to hit "yes" - they think it is another pop-up or spam or something and close it up.

Hugh. I have spent the last hour or so, cutting back the jungle in our back garden. Boring work.And when I am bored, yet occupied, I think. And I have been thinking of your sad situation. And a silly old nursery rhyme came running through my head:

"Little Bo Peep, has lost her sheep, and doesnīt know where to find them
leave them alone, and they will come home..bringing their tails behind them"

I donīt mean to trivialise everything, but the truth is, as I see it, as follows. So long as you keep renewing a lifeline of contact, albeit only one way,you will give them reason not to worry. You still care, so they go on their merry way. So long as you continue to do that, so will she.Until something happens, when she will need you. Hopefully, she will need you. Equally hopefully, that something will not be tragic.
I speak from experience, honestly. I quit home, quit living in the locality, and quit all contact with my family. I was sick and tired of their 'controlling' ways. At least, I translated it as such.I realised after 7 years of no contact,either way, that I missed that feeling of belonging.I got in touch, from here in Spain, booked them a holiday here (they had NO idea where I was), and it was a happy reunion, mostly. My father still hadnīt undestood, or changed in his attitude.Despite 7 happy winters spent with us here, Dad never lost his resentmnt that I had broken free from his 'control', and not failed abysmally, as he 'knew' I would.Mum was thrilled with eveything, never once mentioned the pain I had caused her, and just gave me all her love as usual.
If they HAD been able to contact me during those 7 years, I doubt I would have made the move that I did.Who knows? I'm glad I did.We had 10 years of being in touch again.

The old saying holds so much truth: If you have something, and it wants to go, let it go.
If it was yours, it will come back.
If it doesnīt come back, it wasnīt yours in the first place, no matter how hard to chase it.

The silver lining is always there, though. They might just change, and want to come back. Of their own volition. And then it is the truth.If they come back out of duty, that duty will wear thin, and it will start all over again, eventually.

I sinceely hope you dont take this as intruding . Just wanted to put the 'other' viewpoint, that is all.
God Bless, and prayers for a happy resolution coming your way, as ever.
Nick

[This message has been edited by fierofetish (edited 04-15-2008).]

AOL will let you see if the message 'has been read' and at what time but is only valid between AOL users

The problem is that just because an email is sent successfully to a host provider does not mean that it will be successfully uploaded to the addressee's computer. There are just too many places for things to get corrupted to verify a delivery with certainty. I've actually sent emails to myself from my office computer to my private email at home only to get home and find it didn't make it, despite it being in my sent folder back at the office.