Thought it was a good read, someone baring their soul.

Thoughts? Comments?

Could you confess something like this, even anonymously?

http://minneapolis.craigsli...g/mis/330920045.html

Quoted from link:

To my ex-wife:

I asked for the divorce for many reasons. Not because of the way I felt about you. I loved you then, and I still love you now.

Not because of our constant fighting.

I asked for the divorce because I could not live with you or be with you knowing how I had hurt you. I can not forgive myself for the pain I put you through.
We got married at too young an age, and for the wrong reasons.

You were, are, and always will be the love of my life.

When I first hit you, I knew it was wrong. I did not stop myself.
Things got worse after that, and it became an occurrence whenever we fought.

The names I called you, and the things I said to you with the intent to hurt you were wrong on my part.

You lived through that hell for several years, while I steadily got worse. Thank God I never drank, because I fear that you would not be here for our children if I had.

The day I robbed you of your voice when I grabbed you by the throat was the day I realized the monster I had become.

That was the day the police had to break down the door to the house and the bathroom. They found me laying on the bathroom floor. The rifle I had put under my chin with the loaded round never fired. I pulled the trigger and all it did was click. I lost my mind at that point. The only way for me to end your suffering was to remove myself from your life, and I failed at it.

I spent 2 weeks under suicide watch in the hospital. And those 2 weeks, you were waiting for me the entire time. You loved me through everything I did to you.

It was stupid of you. But I understand, because even as I was hurting you, I loved you with my heart.

I was a stupid stupid child. Not even a man, but a child who wanted things my way. When I didn't get them, I lashed out physically and verbally.

I finally got out of the hospital, and went through therapy and counseling.
You were there for me the entire time.

We got married after that. We had 3 beautiful kids together.

Things went good for us for a few years, and then the arguing started again. I made an effort to change my life so as not to be verbal or physical.

I began to cheat on you since I was dissatisfied with the arguing and our life. I knew it was wrong, and I did it anyway. You will never know how many there were. I will never share that. I was safe, and always did my best to stay that way.

After a while, I stopped. More because I realized I was hurting you. You stayed with me even then.

I asked you for the divorce, because I love you. As strange as that sounds, I want you to be happy.

It has been 3 years since our divorce. I have spent the last 3 years growing up. Becoming a better person. I am striving to be the person that you have always needed and deserved.

I hope one day, our conversations will bring us full circle, and maybe we can develop the friendship that started our relationship, before I started hurting you.

You still love me and want me, even now.

I hope one day my faith in you will be that strong.

I love you.

Sounds like a nut job to me. The ex-wife would be well advised to keep her distance.

someone needs a rubber room.

Probably BS but if it was on the level,,,,,,,,,,,, well, oh my god

Wow I could have wrote that word for word. That is exlactly how I feel right now, I can write a letter just like that, except for the Fighting, and the name calling. And the hitting, chocking, atempted suicide, therapy and cheating thet letter could have been mine.

quote Originally posted by Kekipi: ...except for the Fighting, and the name calling. And the hitting, chocking, atempted suicide, therapy and cheating thet letter could have been mine.

Not much left.

I also suspect this letter is BS, but if it isn't, it's interesting to note that most of those points you mentioned occurred BEFORE they got married. Yikes, sometimes I wonder what it takes to scare away women from total losers.

from some of the people i've met i believe its legit. there are some really f'up people out there. however, i'm always surprised about how frank they are about being f'up. guess after you have a gun in your mouth and choke your wife everything else is water under the bridge.

Never assume a gun is loaded, always check first.

The sad part is, I know this guy.

The gun was loaded.

And he has completely changed his life around.

Yes, this is real.

Do you believe someone can change? That they can choose to be a better person, and actually DO it?

quote Originally posted by Jake_Dragon: Never assume a gun is loaded, always check first.

I agree - except the opposite.....never assume it to be empty.....


anyways - yes - there are people who "rage out"
and it aint all guys. my brother-in-law was on the bad end of a woman like this.

quote Originally posted by Synthesis: The sad part is, I know this guy. The gun was loaded. And he has completely changed his life around. Yes, this is real. Do you believe someone can change? That they can choose to be a better person, and actually DO it?

Chris,

I don't know the circumstances behind anything, but I truly hope this wasn't you, just because it would mean you had to go through all that.. I know you've been through some pretty rough times, and the simularities are too striking to ignore. If this was you, ignore the callous remarks above as they don't have the whole story. Good luck regardless, I'm here if you need me,

Ryan

quote Originally posted by ryan.hess: If this was you (Synthesis), ignore the callous remarks above as they don't have the whole story.

Well geez Ryan, he asked for "thoughts" and "comments", he got them.

It was stated by Synthesis that he "found" this at Craigslist while "flipping" through it.

If he purposely misrepresented what this letter is all about, then I don't have a whole lot of sympathy if our comments might've come across as "callous".

strange... I wonder what the price product being sold/bought was...

yes, there are people like this. sometimes they turn themselves around, but beware. old habits are hard to break.