The man who bought me my first 84 sport coupe when I was 15 died Saturday morning of a suspected Pulmonary Embolism. He did live long enough to get to see my 86 SE with the new exhaust on it and even said "I like that exhaust." I'm totally lost.
my father was 52. we (the children) don't get to spend enough time with them.
give your mother a few weeks to talk to the extended family. but soon enough they will stop calling and it will be left on your shoulders to support her.
she will probably tell you things that you never imagined your father could do. you have lost your father, but your mother has lost her best friend. try to be strong.
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Erik Member
Posts: 5628 From: Des Moines, Iowa Registered: Jul 2002
Brad I am so sorry for you Your Dad was very cool and loved spending time with you
I lost my Mom almost 3 yrs ago suddenly as well way too young to for us to lose our parents that young Just know your Dad lives on through you as well as many of those you know and love
Im here if you would like to stop by and talk ..
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Patrick Member
Posts: 39201 From: Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada Registered: Apr 99
Brad, I'm very sorry about the passing of your father. My best friend died this past July the same age as your dad (as discussed Here). He left behind a 17 year old son and 15 year old daughter. It just doesn't seem fair that some children have to lose their fathers (or mothers) so early in their lives.
My most sincere condolences to you and your family.
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MetroMatt Member
Posts: 702 From: Washington, D.C., CAR located in Monroe, Michigan Registered: Jan 2005
my father was 52. we (the children) don't get to spend enough time with them.
give your mother a few weeks to talk to the extended family. but soon enough they will stop calling and it will be left on your shoulders to support her.
she will probably tell you things that you never imagined your father could do. you have lost your father, but your mother has lost her best friend. try to be strong.
true all of that. my grandfather passed, and my dad stuck with my grandma for a good while but eventually even he stopped calling her. now its up to me and my brother to call her and keep her spirits up. its hard for us, harder for them, who spent almost all their waking hours with each other. hope your mom is doing well, and keep your chin up yourself.
My condolences. Be tough. You will get over the pain and only remember the good eventually. I lost my dad when I was 14 and he was 53. I know how it can be
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cornersonrails Member
Posts: 788 From: Algonquin,Il USA Registered: Jul 2006
Sorry to hear this. Although at first you might feel robbed that you were not able to say good-bye. Take comfort in knowing he lived life to the fullest to the end and did not suffer. My dad died at 49 after spending 2 brutal years in a nursing home.( cancer )
:edited to add: I was 18 when he died.
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Hulki U. My-BFF Member
Posts: 5949 From: Back home in East Berlin, PA Registered: Apr 2008
Sorry for your loss, man. I lost my dad when I was 3 months old, so I never got any time with him that I can remember. I do share his love for autos though. Remember the good times.
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Fierochic88 Member
Posts: 4987 From: Staunton, VA Registered: May 2001
Sorry to hear about your loss. I can't begin to imagine what you are going through now. May God look over you and your loved ones and guide you through these times.
Sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts and prayers of the whole Fiero community go out to you. I lost my dad whenhe was just 50, never got to know him as an adult. There will always be an empty but time will heal. take care of yuorself and your family.
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Posts: 2722 From: Elk Grove, CA USA Registered: Jan 2000
I am truely sorry to here that. No time is a good time and any age is too young. My father passed away about two years ago at the age of 72. He taught me everything he new about working on cars. I would see guys with their Dads out somewhere even now and say "Why can't that be my Dad and I"
Not to go Opra here, but spend the times you have now and don't take anything for granted.
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madcurl Member
Posts: 21401 From: In a Van down by the Kern River Registered: Jul 2003
Sorry to hear of your loss...nothing can take the pain away, only time can make it easier to bear. One thing that has helped me in these situations is gathering as many happy pictures of them doing their favorite activities and doing a photo story set to their favorite music.
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Formula88 Member
Posts: 53788 From: Raleigh NC Registered: Jan 2001
Way too young. Sending my condolences just doesn't seem like nearly enough but, that's about all I can do. Be strong for your mom, she is just as lost as you if not more.
Ron
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Sorry to hear. Lost mine when he was 57 and a brother at 56. Learn from his lost as he would no doubt want you too. If was a heart attack get yourself check out early not when youre in your 50s. You have the same genes and if you smoke!!!!!!!! BTW: You won't ever get fully over the lost, just learn to live with it and go on as he'd want you to.
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FieroBrad87 Member
Posts: 743 From: Nevada, Iowa, United States Registered: Dec 2005
Not only that, we're going to bury his brother Saturday afternoon after Dad's funeral. Dad's middle brother died in June at age 50 of lung cancer. It's been a bad year. Thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers.
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kawana Member
Posts: 2329 From: Abbotsford, BC, Canada Registered: May 2007
I'm very sorry for your loss. I think you and I share many coincidences, though.
I lost my mother when I was 13, three years ago. When she passed away my Dad told me she wanted me to have her Fiero; that's how I got my car. My car is the greatest gift I have ever received from her, and it's one of the only physical things I can remember her by. Once you start to think about it, your car will start to mean THAT much more to you, considering how you got it.
I'm sure he wants what's best for you, which is probably to live your life how you would have if he were still with you. I'm sure you miss him very much. I pray for you.
Our deepest heartfelt sympathy on the loss of your father. While no words that we can offer will be of real comfort, we will certainly keep you in our thoughts and prayers and if you believe in God almighty as I do, find hope and comfort in our savior Jesus Christ that you will be reuntied with dad in heaven one day.
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BlackGT Codde Member
Posts: 1107 From: Gallup, New Mexico Registered: Mar 2008
I am so sorry for your loss. Lost my Dad when he was 78. I spent a lot of time working on cars and going hunting with him. Not a day goes by that I do not think of him. Especially when working on the cars. Cherish and hold dear all the good memories. Time heels but I will always miss having him around. Stay strong. All our prayers are with you.
Pat
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Posts: 1950 From: Alfred,Maine,Fiero Country,USA Registered: Dec 2000
