Firstly, I've filed a complaint with the BBB detailing RockAuto's repeated lies and flip-flopping about this part. I'll let you know how that turns out, but I'd urge everyone to do the same. It's pretty fast and easy online and it might convince RockAuto to shape up.
Having said that, is it possible that they made a flywheel somewhere in between balanced and neutral? It seems unlikely to me, but it would explain everything.
And I'm told that resurfaced will mean slightly imbalanced because of that. It should be pretty close though.
Meanwhile, I'm talking with some manufacturers and OEM suppliers to see if I can track down something correct that's more reasonably priced. Autozone, O'Reilly, CarQuest etc all need over $225 with no returns if they also happen to be neutrally balanced because it's a special order direct from one of these manufacturers. Most online sellers have Chinese parts for $90 but I could get rarer flywheels for half that price any day.
Until then: locate hen, extract teeth. And grab a few for the rest of us while you're at it, lol.
I'll let everyone know what I find. So far my best is about $80 shipped for one from a Japanese company that provides OEM parts. Not sure if they're cast there or in China.
[This message has been edited by FieroGT42 (edited 03-19-2013).]