Always use 6 point sockets on high torque bolts. Even if you have to buy the extra socket or 3. Even now that it's stripped a 6 point might grab.
Heating the bolt can be very difucult. Try an acetalene torch. Use a welding tip NOT the cutting head. keep the heat on the center of the bolt head. You don't want to heat the bolt red, just get it hot so it grows. (It has to be acetalene. Propane and "map" torches generally can't concentrate the heat enough.)
When the bolt head gets hot give it a light whack or 3. That will shock down the length of it and rattle the threads. Then let the bolt cool a bit. and try turning it.
If that doesn't work, or you can't get a torch, drill the head off.
The main thing you don't want to do is spot heat the cylinder head. That can crack it.