Those who want to have children do so to push their genes into the future and grant themselves a sort of genetic immortality. Those who don't, well, accidents cause people.
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normsf Member
Posts: 1682 From: mishawaka, In Registered: Oct 2003
Those who want to have children do so to push their genes into the future and grant themselves a sort of genetic immortality.
I used to think along those lines 10 years ago, now... 1000 years from now nobody will remember you if humans still exist, and if they do... whos George Washington?
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Back On Holiday Member
Posts: 6238 From: Downingtown, PA Registered: Jul 2001
We decided to get married, then enjoy being a couple for a few years, THEN start a family. didn't want to have a kid before we did a bunch of couple-stuff first (after you have a kid, the vacations change a little) Worked out well so far. (When he isn't freaking out totally about wanting to watch some girl in underwear in youtube and we don't know who he's talking about)
Wouldn't ever want to go back to being "Rumor before he had a kid". He's just too awesome.
Would maybe want one more, but maybe not.
It's hard sometimes, but Sooooooooooooooo worth it. I enjoy my life more with him in it.
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hookdonspeed Member
Posts: 7980 From: baltimore, md Registered: May 2008
What is the desire to have children? Where does it come from?
*Rorschach steps in for a moment*
Stood in firelight, sweltering. Bloodstain on chest like map of violent new continent. Felt cleansed. Felt dark planet turn under my feet and knew what cats know that makes them scream like babies in night. Looked at sky through smoke heavy with human fat and God was not there. The cold, suffocating dark goes on forever and we are alone. Live our lives, lacking anything better to do. Devise reason later. Born from oblivion; bear children, hell-bound as ourselves, go into oblivion. There is nothing else. Existence is random. Has no pattern save what we imagine after staring at it for too long. No meaning save what we choose to impose. This rudderless world is not shaped by vague metaphysical forces. It is not God who kills the children. Not fate that butchers them or destiny that feeds them to the dogs. It’s us. Only us. Streets stank of fire. The void breathed hard on my heart, turning it's illusions to ice, shattering them. Was reborn then, free to scrawl own design on this morally blank world. Was Rorschach. Does that answer your questions, Boondawg?
Stood in firelight, sweltering. Bloodstain on chest like map of violent new continent. Felt cleansed. Felt dark planet turn under my feet and knew what cats know that makes them scream like babies in night. Looked at sky through smoke heavy with human fat and God was not there. The cold, suffocating dark goes on forever and we are alone. Live our lives, lacking anything better to do. Devise reason later. Born from oblivion; bear children, hell-bound as ourselves, go into oblivion. There is nothing else. Existence is random. Has no pattern save what we imagine after staring at it for too long. No meaning save what we choose to impose. This rudderless world is not shaped by vague metaphysical forces. It is not God who kills the children. Not fate that butchers them or destiny that feeds them to the dogs. It’s us. Only us. Streets stank of fire. The void breathed hard on my heart, turning it's illusions to ice, shattering them. Was reborn then, free to scrawl own design on this morally blank world. Was Rorschach. Does that answer your questions, Boondawg?
That was AWESOME.
I want children. I just want to be able to share my love with someone who comes from me. I want to impart my knowledge into his/her brain and give them experiences.
I think being a father will hold so many joys that I can't even think of right now. I can't wait to have a child..
As a matter of fact... I think I'm gonna go make one! Hehe jkjk
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fogglethorpe Member
Posts: 4828 From: Valley of the Sun Registered: Jul 2001
My wife and I have four kids, ranging in ages from 13 to 24.
Our twins (b/g) are the oldest. My wife was a single mom when we met (they were 20 months old) and I legally adopted them when they were 4. I always said I married 3 people.
We had two more boys after getting married, because we were open to having more kids and didn't try "not to".
I believe it was God's will for my wife and I to have the children we have.
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My wife and I have four kids, ranging in ages from 13 to 24.
Our twins (b/g) are the oldest. My wife was a single mom when we met (they were 20 months old) and I legally adopted them when they were 4. I always said I married 3 people.
We had two more boys after getting married, because we were open to having more kids and didn't try "not to".
I believe it was God's will for my wife and I to have the children we have.
I just sent you a PM
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fogglethorpe Member
Posts: 4828 From: Valley of the Sun Registered: Jul 2001
Originally posted by crazyd: Those who want to have children do so to push their genes into the future and grant themselves a sort of genetic immortality. Those who don't, well, accidents cause people.
They make great helpers. I even learned how to delegate chores/responsibilities with children. They will be there when I am old and need to be taken care of. I kid, I kid (pun intended). I have four, two boys and two girls. I had them because I loved my wife and celebrated that love with sex. Not actually trying to have kids, I would not call it an accident either. A gift from God, in God's time. Children are so cool. Such an experience. They are riches beyond money. From their puppy/kitten like antics of their early years to the maturity of later years, they are a marvel to watch. They are a medium such as clay, which we can form into whatever we like. Their existence even causes us to reevaluate our own. Blessed was I to have children, !
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Posts: 25719 From: Florida USA Registered: Aug 2002
I have 1 daughter, and another baby on the way (not sure yet what it is).
1 - I want to help produce more Republican / Christian children in this world to fight against socialism. 2 - I need someone who will pick a decent nursing home. 3 - I want to experience the same thing my parents have experienced, both then, and now (as they are grandparents) 4 - God gave me totally awesome genetics, and I feel obligated to pass them on. 5 - I need someone to keep up on the maintenance of my Fiero when I'm gone... (or at least to get it running again)
3 children. 2 sons - 31 (handicapped), and 26. 1 daughter - 24. Two are married, on their own and self-sufficient. 31 year old son lives with us.
We had them because we knew that the self-sacrifice of raising children would pay off big time as we got older. My family is THE most important thing in my life and we are VERY proud of them and ourselves for raising them.
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blackrams Member
Posts: 33275 From: Covington, TN, USA Registered: Feb 2003
Two, one man child, one little lady. They are a result of the love and decisions my wife and I made together, not just to have sex. They were wonderful children and are great adults that both contribute to our society, culture and country. Why, because I knew Don's kids were going to need help.
Ron
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partfiero Member
Posts: 6923 From: Tucson, Arizona Registered: Jan 2002
Three boys! I ditched my sex education classes. Didn't know that sex caused you to have children. I just figured when a woman ate pickles and chocolate ice cream in the same sitting she became pregnant.
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bristowb Member
Posts: 745 From: douglasville,georgia,usa Registered: Oct 2009
My wife and I made a LOVING decision to have children 2 boys ages 5 and 3. They are the love of our lives. Family is important to us. I even have pictures of them working on the Fiero with me. Nothing is better that coming home to my boys as the yell DADDY and run up and give me hugs and kisses. It instantly make your day better. We are planning to try for a 3rd after the first of the year. God has Blessed us with 2 children that I WOULD DIE FOR.
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MidEngineManiac Member
Posts: 29566 From: Some unacceptable view Registered: Feb 2007
What is the desire to have children? Where does it come from?
I like the variety of responses
Probably different for everyone. Good or not so good reasons. I know a few adopted people who wanted kids, a big part was to have blood related family, to feel the connection. Maybe for some to relive their childhood thru them? Rediscover innocence? Train them not to make mistakes you made? Maybe to try and add something to a marriage that doesn't feel right? Maybe to have someone to take care of you when you are old? Maybe because mom wanted a grand kid?
IMO, Though good reasons would be good, whatever reason really doesn't matter as long as you raise them right and are a good parent once it happens. It seems the reason is usually found after the child arrives.
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MidEngineManiac Member
Posts: 29566 From: Some unacceptable view Registered: Feb 2007
. It seems the reason is usually found after the child arrives.
Always wanted to have at least one kid, but never realized how totally and completely it changes you. (well, ME, anyway) Other people tend to just be kinda "eh..." when it comes to their kid(s). I try to cram everything I can (educational and fun) into his little spongy brain...
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Hank is Here Member
Posts: 4462 From: Hershey, Pa Registered: Sep 2000
cuz I knew if I didn't, that there would be a desperate shortage of real men in the world one day.
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Originally posted by blackrams:
Two, one man child, one little lady. They are a result of the love and decisions my wife and I made together, not just to have sex. They were wonderful children and are great adults that both contribute to our society, culture and country. Why, because I knew Don's kids were going to need help.
Ron
Truly the best answers. I wanted to have the children I have. They are all blessings and I enjoy each one of them immensely. Each one brings something different to the table, and that's what makes it fun. I too are raising mine to make a difference in the world. The hardest lesson is trying to teach them to work hard when they see most everyone else sitting on their arse getting handouts.
Jim
PS. Sex without a condom is still better though.
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Oct 5th, 2010
Khw Member
Posts: 11139 From: South Weber, UT. U.S.A. Registered: Jun 2008
5. Daughter 15, Daughter 11, Daughter 9, Son 4 and Son passed away.
Why did I have them? That's a hard question to answer. Self sacrafice? When you want more then just for yourself?
When I was younger I didn't want children. I wanted toys. Lowered truck... Booming stereo... The latest electronic gadgets... But what do those give? Momentary happiness. That does not compare to the love you feel for and the love you get from your child. Can you wake up at 2 in the morning and give your CD player a bottle while cuddling it in your arms? If your truck is scared is it going to run to you for protection? Is your TV going to scream "DADDY" and run over and hug you when you walk through the door after a long day at work? Would you ever put the needs/wants of your cellphone before your needs/wants? I don't know exactly what changed but I'm happy it did.
None, zip, zilch, nada.... Why? So my wife and I can enjoy quality quiet time.. anytime we want. And so we can own our toys! Including her Hemi Charger and my supercharged Miata
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5, 4 boys, 1 girl. When the 4th arrived, Linda mad an appointment to go talk to the doc about a vasectomy. Had to cancel the appointment. When she found out she was pregnant with the 5th, she made the appointment AND drove me there.
Why have them? That's what happens when you, uh, well, you know.
I don't have kids and my life choices have removed those options. I would have liked to have shared my life with a younger version of myself but its not going to happen. Several years ago I tried to be a big brother and didn't qualify. So I have no kids and have to spoil myself. I wouldn't change a thing if I could but I do think there is something missing in my life.
I had unprotected sex a "couple" of times when I was younger. So I honestly don't know, if I did have a kid running around he would be old enough to have the resources to find me. I have tried to locate the girls a few times but not made a big effort as I am married and I don't think she would like it so I kept it to myself.
5. Three sons 17,14,11 and 2 daughters 21, 15. With a grandchild on the way. I always loved the idea of being a dad, and passing on my skills ( All 5 love Fieros the two oldest are owners). All will learn how to drive in a Fiero. As for the number, I like to think that we were cursed/blessed by my late mother. She predicted before her death that we would have 5. Way to go Mom. When my wife and I got engaged my Mom went into "I want to be a Grandma overdrive". It will be 13 years since her passing on Saturday. I just wish she was still around to enjoy them.
That was AWESOME. 
Hehe jkjk
