-I have gf, we are fighting alot more in the last few months. -I need to end it (im 63.45% sure) but our familes are kinda intertwined with each other so I need to do with respect. -Ive tried ending it but at the end of the conversation, we seem to still be dating, I dont know how she does it, but she could sell salt water to a guy in a raft in the middle of the Atlantic.
Seriously I dont know how to do it. I can get along w/ her just fine I dont mind her and I dont hate her. Our relationship just isnt what it should be and nothings going to change.
Ideas?
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Posts: 10012 From: Sacramento CA USA Registered: May 2003
I was in the same place once... I never had an answer all I can tell you is you have to tell her absolutly everything you feel tell her that you don't mean to hurt her and you don't want to hurt the famlies... but something is not right... maybe it will be right some other time?
Beats having no GF. This is a plus. "Never quit a job until you have replacement income lined up." Same with a GF.
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-I need to end it (im 63.45% sure) but our familes are kinda intertwined with each other so I need to do with respect.
Basically, you are only 13.45% above undecided. Lot's of room for error-and there shouldn't be any room for error--either you want to hit the air--or you don't. Kinda like being 'sorta pregnant'--no such thing.
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-Ive tried ending it but at the end of the conversation, we seem to still be dating, I dont know how she does it, but she could sell salt water to a guy in a raft in the middle of the Atlantic.
Keep her, and go into business with her.
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Seriously I dont know how to do it. I can get along w/ her just fine I dont mind her and I dont hate her. Our relationship just isnt what it should be and nothings going to change.
Ideas?
You know how--you just don't want to. That's because of the 13.54% thing. If you were 99.45% sure, you wouldn't have a problem. Get on the bus Gus. Skip out the back Jack. Get a new plan Stan. Get yourself free. btw, can she cook real biscuits?-will she?-does she? just curious....
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blackrams Member
Posts: 33191 From: Covington, TN, USA Registered: Feb 2003
Be honest, tell her you want to date around to see what's out there cause this just isn't going the direction you think it needs to. Then do it. Go out and get a date with someone else. That will send the message. You don't have to be a jerk about it but, she'll think you are regardless. This is a no win, be gentle but firm but, DO IT.
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Feel free to ask for dating suggestions and advice on love, I'm as good as the next person and I don't charge much.
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Originally posted by maryjane: Get on the bus Gus. Skip out the back Jack. Get a new plan Stan. Get yourself free.
Hmm, that the same thing my wife told me. I think the last sentence was slightly different though. I wonder??
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Pyrthian Member
Posts: 29569 From: Detroit, MI Registered: Jul 2002
Introduce her to a better looking wealthy guy at a party, start a fight, storm off, have your friend swoop in for the lay. Then when she confesses to it, tell her you wont tell the family and break up with her.
Introduce her to a better looking wealthy guy at a party, start a fight, storm off, have your friend swoop in for the lay. Then when she confesses to it, tell her you wont tell the family and break up with her.
Wow, that's so bad, but just might work for his situation.
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Cadillac Jack Member
Posts: 1165 From: Jacksonville, IL, USA Registered: May 2003
Third party counselor. The counseler will keep the conversation on track. If it is just an underlying issue causing arguments that will come out and be dealt with. Maybe the relationship just needs tuned not junked. But of it needs junked, going to a counselor will move it along. Just be straight and tell the counselor the same thing you have told thousands of us.
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exoticse Member
Posts: 8655 From: Orlando, Fl Registered: Jun 2003
Guaranteed to work 80% of the time... the other 20%, some girls a little more *experimental* than others
And if that doesn't work, you can borrow my friend and get caught in a compromising situation, assuming you don't mind being the bad guy.
Seriously though, just walk away form it all. Don't say a word for awhile, then tell her you had to walk away for a bit and look at things from another perspective and finally realized you can't see the two of you having a serious long term relationship, or ever getting married. Do all the talking, don't let her take control of the conversation.
I was in the same place once... I never had an answer all I can tell you is you have to tell her absolutly everything you feel tell her that you don't mean to hurt her and you don't want to hurt the famlies... but something is not right... maybe it will be right some other time?
I would actually put it in writing (a letter), take her to a restaurant, give her the letter and have her read it to you.
I'm actually going thru the same situation but in my case my Fiero is being held hostage 1,200 miles away. Let's see what happens this weekend.
Originally posted by topher_time: And if that doesn't work, you can borrow my friend and get caught in a compromising situation, assuming you don't mind being the bad guy.
Is the compromising situation that your friend really isn't a girl? Only asking because a friend of mine thought it would be funny to introduce me to a girlfriend of hers, but I didn't fall for it.
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Posts: 7980 From: baltimore, md Registered: May 2008
-I need to end it (im 63.45% sure) but our familes are kinda intertwined with each other so I need to do with respect.
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Originally posted by maryjane: Basically, you are only 13.45% above undecided. Lot's of room for error-and there shouldn't be any room for error--either you want to hit the air--or you don't. Kinda like being 'sorta pregnant'--no such thing.
O.o 63.45 + 13.45 = 76.90
sooo is the other 23.10% him wondering just exactly how to get the dog to lick that peanut butter once hes single?
idk, just keep telling her u wana nail her somewhere very uncomfortable... like what the back of a Volkswagen? :X
i agree with everyone, be honest with her, and just tell her you don't think things are going the way you think they should and that you think it's time to end things.
i think its harder then it sounds, but be firm on your point but don't be a jerk, be as nice about this as you can be.
but in order for you both to be happy one cannot be unhappy.
There is a new "model" I have an eye on, and it has me in its sights. But yeah I gotta trade in the old model for the new one first....
I have to, most of the time it is true.
What exactly are you trying to upgrade? passion? things in common? less bitchy? (sorry they all have the gene) a sportier body style perhaps? cnange for the sake of change?
What a bunch of losers ?? Now is the time to press forward with the kinky sex ideas you wanted to try ,,go for it,, you have nothing to lose !! serious scouting for new hosebag!! while in bed find out the girl friends that like you.. if she does not normally use vibrating toys introduce her to jelly junior this goes a long way to introducing things you want to try..Get every thing you want then have lame talk about what is wrong with relationship Many women do not have any Idea what they are really like and consider them selfs the cream of the crop they see thier 30% evil rgumenta as only 5%,Im sure you have talked about this many times.. I often let women do as they please but the argumentive , the female dog, the witch you must dominate or leave,, they want your pair in thier pocket All bets are off if she is a moaner ,a true moaner is a treasure Thier are some really outstanding women,, hard to find tho, the lords hand maidens,, but nothing comes close to a true moaner keep even if she beats you!!! or send to me
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What exactly are you trying to upgrade? passion? things in common? less bitchy? (sorry they all have the gene) a sportier body style perhaps? cnange for the sake of change?
Mostly all of them.
I dont smile anymore when I see her, its like a prison sentence whenever I have to see her now, when she calls (btw if I miss a call she calls until I pick up) I want to throw my phone. She has days where she calls me OVER 12 times. which any one can figure out is averaged to EVERY 2 HOURS SHE IS CALLING ME. Hell if I dont charge my phone it will die because its ringing so much...
Oh yeah, Theres another girl Im interested in now too lol
If you are going to break up, for God's sakes, go ahead & do it now--well before Christmas, and don't get another GF until after Valentine's Day. You'll save a bundle of $$. Now, if her mother is an exceptional cook, and you already know you are invited for Thanksgiving dinner, you can wait till Nov 30, but no later!!
Just a little tip from an old faht.
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WhiteDevil88 Member
Posts: 8518 From: Coastal California Registered: Mar 2007
I totally agree with Stan. Start exploring all the freaky deaky shiat that you would never do to the mother of your children. As far as the families being intertwined, is she maybe a cousin? I can see how that couldbe tricky.
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Spoon Member
Posts: 3762 From: Sadsburyville, PA. 19369 / USA Registered: May 2004
Tell her your going to take her on a cruise. Then book passage on a very slow cargo ship bound for China. Get her drunk and shortly after leaving port, under the cover of darkness, pump up your hidden raft and jump ship. Keep working those oars and don't look back.
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AntiKev Member
Posts: 2333 From: Windsor, Ontario, Canada Registered: May 2004
I have definatly been in this situation and yes the funny stuff is well funny but I am sure you are hurting and confused about everything. The calling is a tad crazy I will admit that.
Honesty is the best answer if you have trouble saying the words out loud write them out.
and please although you have your eye on another lady at the moment don't jump into anything with her. keep it casual for a while. your heart needs to mend after a relationship and if you don't let it do that you are asking for trouble.
I wonder??
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