I usually am the one offering advice: Well today I am seeking it, so I turn to PFF for their take. Thanks for the time even if you have no input.

In the late 1980s I was engaged to a girl named Tanya. I broke up with her twice and on the second time, she swore out a TPO on me even though I did nothing to her.
She violated that TPO and the cops finally revoked it when they caught her driving past my home-- and she had dropped the drive shaft on her dads truck. She was on my property when the cops arrived. In the 1980s she had a penchant for stalking me: I moved to the next town over thinking
I would be safe. I wasn't She moved two blocks away and the problems persisted. I then joined the military where I am today. She supposedly got married, had 3 kids, and I thought that
it was finally over and I'd just have Tanya as a distant memory...
Fast forward to 2011... I kept in touch with my old friends from that time... Her best friend from that time lately started urging me to "rebuild" the car I had during that time, a 1973 Camaro Z28.
I thought she was just kidding until she found one, and urged me to get it.

So your thinking what does that have to do with Tanya?

I found out Tanya has abandoned her 3 kids, filed for divorce and now has been seen in the town next to the military base I am now stationed at. When I asked her friend Trish about this, she not only said that it was true, but that "Stalking me was low on her list." Stalking me should not even be on her list I said then hung up. I was pi$$ed off by that point.

I wont lie I do have some good feelings from the past involving her but I dont want all the trouble that I had in the past. I have 30 years in the military and sure as hell dont want to blow it over stupid ****. lol

Any advice is appreciated thanks for letting me use your podium, Cliff (PFF)

Maybe I should just volunteer to stay overseas when I go. lol

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Stay away from her.
You dodged a bullet.

Do whatever you have to to avoid contact and protect yourself.

Don't give her the time of day,avoid her at all cost even if you have to move again.

Shouldn't you be talking to your CO about this?

I'm not sure how that works these days.

Brad

Wow, some people are NUTS, aren't they?

It would appear the sand box is starting to look better.

People don't change that much, she was trouble then, she'll be trouble now. If you happen to run into her, don't be nice, don't be socialable, look her in the eye and tell her she is dead in your mind and heart and walk away.
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Ron

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Quit thinking with your penis. Nuff said.

Jim

Sounds like you had better run. She is hot on your trail... lol

Wear a condom.

Invest in a stun gun.

Fatal attraction......happens to the best of us.

Hire a big 'o girl to beat the crap outa her.

Edit to add: It's been 30+ years. I don't think being nice will work. In fact I'm thinkin' nothing is going to work.

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Do your best to avoid her at all costs. If cornered, be gracious with her feelings but firm in your language.

A famous quote from George Washington says "Worry is the interest paid for borrowing trouble."

quote Originally posted by htexans1: I wont lie I do have some good feelings from the past involving her...

Funny, you don't seem to be A COMPLETE IDIOT! WTF is the matter with you? Change your name, move to some far-away town, change you appearance, RUN, do not walk, away.

Can you fake your death? Is there anybody you'll miss if you have to go into Witness Protection?

You can come back here under a new name. Cliff will help with that, and WE won't rat you out. She can torture us all she wants. (Some would like that) Tell her we really hate Bacon....

Yeah, that's it. We hate bacon. And Fieros. The Forum is all about how much we hate them. So she should fill our driveways with Fieros. Nicer ones we hate the most. And make us eat bacon, that'll make us talk.

I am most thankful to the women that turned me down. I could have gotten stuck with one of them.

Stay below the radar. and for God's sake--QUIT inquiring about her!!! It will get back to her sooner or later and You're just feeding her illness.

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Bunny Boiler.

quote Originally posted by htexans1: ......... I found out Tanya has abandoned her 3 kids, filed for divorce and now has been seen in the town next to the military base I am now stationed at. When I asked her friend Trish about this, she not only said that it was true, but that "Stalking me was low on her list." Stalking me should not even be on her list I said then hung up. I was pi$$ed off by that point. .....

dont pry on the lid
keep that box shut

unless - and many people do - you enjoy drama. not sure why you would be talking to her friends. just seems like you asking to have her enter into your circles. maybe just for self-validation. which is understandable. you sound like a great person, have a good head on your shoulders, kept yourself together, where many of your peers likely havent. likely more of a "catch" for her now than in the past. and, its always nice to have people from the past acknowledge that. but - this is nothing but trouble. you know this.

quote Originally posted by Pyrthian: dont pry on the lid keep that box shut unless - and many people do - you enjoy drama. not sure why you would be talking to her friends. just seems like you asking to have her enter into your circles. maybe just for self-validation. which is understandable. you sound like a great person, have a good head on your shoulders, kept yourself together, where many of your peers likely havent. likely more of a "catch" for her now than in the past. and, its always nice to have people from the past acknowledge that. but - this is nothing but trouble. you know this.

Actually i think its my friends who enjoy the drama. I have gone out of my way to request they DONT tell me about her. Some like Trish just elect to do so. So i am avoiding her too. Thanks!!

If you try to link up with this woman, this First Sergeant may have to come out of retirement, march down to Fort Riley, and give you some much needed wall to wall counseling!

The only stalkers I have are male...

Sorry to hear about your predicament, it's hard to live life free when you're looking around every corner for a stalker.

quote Originally posted by JazzMan: The only stalkers I have are male...

quote Originally posted by aceman: If you try to link up with this woman, this First Sergeant may have to come out of retirement, march down to Fort Riley, and give you some much needed wall to wall counseling!

Good ol' first shirts. They can be your best friend or your worst enemy!