One of my kids' classmates has a mom who's dating again, and recently went out with someone of a different skin color. My kids asked me just the other day what I thought about that, and I told them: it would seem the natural thing to build intimacy with someone of your own race, but if, for example, the other person's mom is white and their dad is black then what are they? Until someone can tell me why it shouldn't happen, then I'm certainly not going to say (or even think) they're doing anything wrong. I've known several interracial couples, and have a niece who married interracial & has children. I don't give it a second thought. There was a thread here last year about prejudice, and it was very interesting. If I find it, I'll post the link.
I used to be against it until my cousin married a Jamaican guy and they had a kid together. He is as good as any white guy out there, he works hard and is a great father. I think he changed my mind on the whole thing. Many reasons why people are against it are racist anyway. I have met a ton of white guys who I wouldn't let anywhere near my sister/future daughter. I used to live in an all black neighborhood where I thought it was just poor black people who acted like animals, but now I go to school in a different part of the city where poor white people live and they act just as bad as the black people in my old neighborhood. I think it is the way you were raised and where you live that dictates the type of person you will become. I bet if I grew up like these kids I would end up in jail or on drugs too.
just my 2 cents
------------------ Jeff '88 GT t-top 3.4 Baltimore, MD - MAFOA
Well, I grew up and have lived most of my life in the South. I am embarassed to say that a lot of my family has been prejudiced, but it was a part of the times.
I don't think it is that way anymore. I know I am not. I have friends of all races, religions, etc. But, I do have to say this.. I am proud of my heritage even though I don't agree with everything they did. And I should still have a right to celebrate my heritage just like other groups do. Unfortunately, the laws of our land are taking away my right to do that because feelings might be hurt. I call that prejudice. If we all want equality, let's really have it.
And one thing I always say... let's all be Americans. Not African Americans and Irish Americans, etc. Unless you are a full blooded Native American Indian, you can add one of those descriptors in front of American to describe yourself. Most of us have ancestors from another country. But what is the point? We are ALL Americans (well, those of us that are Americans anyway! I know we have other countries represented here.) and should just leave it at that.
I think all of you are used to me taking a long time to get to my point... Well, here it is.. I see nothing wrong with interracial relationships. I have never had one, but I have never intentionally not had one. Love is Love, People are People. When ALL races stop trying to get paid back for years of degredation and just start looking to the future, then we will have some real progress.
There are many more topics that I could soapbox on stemming from this. But those are for another time.... Did I ever actually answer the question? hehe
Well I don't know a d@mn about marriage, but I've dated black guys before, and it's no big deal. It depends on the person, I can't handle the "west-side-ghetto-fabulous" guys and thats just my opinion. Lots of white guys try to act like thugs and end up being even worse prospects!
Posts: 5563 From: Clementon,NJ,USA Registered: Jun 2000
I have never considered interacial dating or marriage something to be important to any one except the people who are doing it.I have friends of every race and their skin color makes no more difference to me than the color of the car they drive.When I was younger,I had some concern for the children that would come from an interacial marriage only because it was not accepted like it is today and I felt all the prejudice that was felt by some people would be brought to bear on some undeserving children.Have you seen small children in a playground together?they don't notice skin color.To sum up this long ramble on interacial dating or marriage,If you are attracted to someone,go for it!!!
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Posts: 10879 From: Haarlem, The Netherlands Registered: Jan 99
Hell, folks, I'm a cowboyhat wearing, country music listening, gun toting redneck country boy, and I date across all racial lines. Even got engaged to a Filipino gal once.
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85Josh, Gonnna have to meet you now, a real live redneck.. hehe.. just playing with ya, I aint a redneck, but I am a country boy. I'm from the South, and am pleased with it. dating across racial lines, since I can't seem to find anyone who'll go out with me, I've never had that experince. Though, no matter what part of the world you go to, there be some purty ones.
Why was this thread even made???? You know that people who are racist won't post they're feelings on the subject because they will get shot down! If they were to state they're opinion, you guys would stop talking to them, and from the way Cliff was talking, he would probably kick them off of the forum. I am friends with neo nazis, and to hate them, would be an act of racism. What you people are doing, is pointing the gun on nazis, kkk members or even black panther members(which still exist). So I personally think that this thread is a bunch of crap. I have no problem with your opinions, but what pisses me off, is that it seems like you guys are scaring others from posting.
I know what you are trying to say Kightryder. I myself am not a Klan member nor am I against interracial dating and/or marriage.
However to say, hey I am ok with interracial relationships but there better not be any KKK members on here, is for a lack of better terminology, a stupid thing to say. You would be the first person to Damn someone for not agreeing with interacial relationships and not thinking the way you do. Like Knightryder said. If someone came on here and said I don't agree with those kind of relationships then those people would get slammed on this board and called racists. Yea maybe not written on the screen but as you would read thier post you would say it under your breath. Which is why I am sure many won't post here to reveal their true feelings cause of that reason.
Yea I agree with some of the things the KKK says but I will also say that I disagree with a lot of the stuff they say too. No I am not a Klan member and even if I was, no reason to judge me for it. THis post is just looking to explode.
SO to finalize, I have no probs with interracial relationships.